God said, “If it is possible, as much as lies within you, be at peace with everyone.” We are glad God did not say live at peace with all men because this would be an impossible thing to do. This is implying there are relationships and people who are hostile, and some people will be at enmity with one another. By definition a relationship means, we are associated or connected in some manner, be it emotionally or physically with someone.
If a person refuses to be in a relationship with us and or refuses to be at peace with us, we cannot make them. What an impossible task that would be, to spend our lives trying to make someone stay in a relationship or be at peace with us when they do not want to in a relationship. We cannot make them!
God knew we could learn to be at peace with God and ourselves and demonstrate that peace by how we walk through the process of forgiving and in doing what is right in His sight. That is why God said,” If it is possible, as much as it lies within you live at peace with everyone.” We are to do all we can to be at peace as much as it lies within us. We do not return evil for evil, we show love and forgiveness. God gives us a guide on how to be at peace and how we are to walk this out in our lives.
Romans 12:17-19 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. KJV
Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right not just in thought but in deeds. When we have been wronged, we are not to pay people back for the evil that was done or said. We are to show the love of God by forgiving and we can do this by not continually dwelling and thinking on the evil that was done. We choose to think on the things that are good and ask God to give us the forgiveness we need for that situation.
We are to live at peace with everyone by making peace with the situation no matter how hard and hurtful it may be. We have a choice, to decide we will be at peace. We cannot make people forgive or accept us but we can ask for forgiveness if we have wronged someone. We can try to make restitution, to set the matter right if possible. People may not receive our apology or forgive us but as much as it lies within us, we are to walk through this process in a manner that honors God. We may then be at peace with the situation.
We are to forgive even if the person does not ask for it or deserve it. This does not mean we put ourselves in a position to be hurt or harmed but we can still forgive even at a distance. We do this in obedience to God, to not recompense evil for evil knowing that God will avenge us. It is not our job to make others pay for their wrongs that is God’s responsibility. God even tells us how to rest in Him and how to overcome the wrongs. He tells us to think on the things that are noble, lovely and of good report and for us to meditate on these things and not the hurt.
Philippians 4:8- Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.
Our life is about choices and we will choose to obey God’s direction or let self and pride dictate our lives. We can choose God and do what He asked of us! We can choose to do the right thing, even if it hurts, we show mercy to those who may not ask for it or deserve it. We choose to walk humbly with God. Humble is strength under control. We have the power to take matters into our own hands but we take control over our words and our emotions so to honor our God. We humble ourselves and release the anger and receive God’s forgiveness for us and them.
Micah 6:8 He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly, with your God.
Pride is a major stumbling block that will not allow us to forgive or seek forgiveness. Pride will seek its own revenge and becomes the obstacle that hinders our ability to forgive. God hates pride and it is only in humility that we can walk with God. Pride always wants to rise above others and God. It is the main reason we will not forgive others and refuse to humble ourselves before God. We must not allow pride to stand in the way of us being at peace with all men.
James 4: 6 But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: “God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.